Ashamed of who you are

[fufu ÷]

So I was thinking about something earlier, and it's something I think certainly on the internet that will affect a lot of people.

 

People often seem reluctant to share any personal details online. Obviously, some things are better keep secret, like address, phone number, etc. but there are people who aren't even willing to share a photo of themselves for one reason or another. Some people do it so that people they know 'in real life' wont stumble across it and find their online alias. Others because they're embarrassed by what they look like and don't want to hear any harsh comments about it.

 

But even outside of forums, and even the internet, some people are ashamed to show off what they really enjoy. Wrestling is a big one for a lot of people, as they fear the reactions or mockery of others. It can be about music artists that they find embarrassing to listen to in public or admit to listening to. TV shows that they enjoy. There's plenty more, but you get the gist. Then there's the big ones like sexuality, religion or whatever - but I wont go into those.

 

But what I want to ask is, why should anyone be ashamed of who they are, to the point that they hide it from others? I'm pretty sure people here probably do it. So is there anything you hide from your 'real life friends'? And all internet machismo and bravado aside, are you ashamed of who you are? If you hide something, does that mean you're ashamed of it?

 

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Note: Don't take this is a downer. You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are, even if you fear what other people think. Be you.

Edited April 22, 2014 by fufu ♡

[Samy]

First and foremost i have no friends. My only friends are here on this site

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And yes, no one knows i'm a Wrestling fan. IDC about talking about "Religion, Sexuality" with other people.

I'm pretty ashamed of myself.

Not sure if language barrier or being tired but i couldn't say more

[SassySlothh]

My friends know that im obsessed with Maryse, since she's my phone background, ipod background, school computer background and facebook cover photo.

Whenever someone insults Maryse, i say

"Well, you're obsessed with **** arent you? If you can be his fan, then i can be Maryses fan. I respect who you follow, so respect who i follow."

[EnigmaticArtist]

I usually hide all of my child pictures from people in real life. I was fat back then and I am ashamed of it because that was completely my fault. I worked hard to lose that weight and don't regret it. It payed off for me when I was 13, all of my work had finally payed off. Now, I don't have much to hide from others. 

[Arage™]

Well it's different on everyone's perspective.

1)why should anyone be ashamed of who they are, to the point that they hide it from others?

A: It can be many things. Maybe it could be bullying, Maybe it can be just simply being shy because I used to be like that. Some people just don't want to share anything or an experience they had. Human minds are different so we may never know all the causes.

2) is there anything you hide from your 'real life friends'?

A: Honestly, I'm glad you asked this because it makes me realize if I did. Yes I do hide things but nothing stupid like that I like wrestling.

3) are you ashamed of who you are?

A: I'm not ashamed of who I am, However I'm ashamed of what I do, Sometimes people confuse those two things.

4) If you hide something, does that mean you're ashamed of it?

A: Again, Different Factor play into this. It depends what it is. You could be ashamed of a certain thing that's why you hide it or you hide it simply because it's important like someone else's secret or because it isn't time.

I really love that you asked this question it makes me think whether or not if I am hiding anything or if I am ashamed of myself. So thank you.
 

[huh]

My friends know I'm into wrestling a lot, but they don't really watch and only know of WWE and TNA. Don't tell any of my friends my gamertag or anything though because I don't want people finding my YouTube channel and stuff. It's less about being ashamed (not ashamed at all) I just like keeping some things to myself. And I don't tell anyone online of my full name or show any pictures of myself because I don't know you niggas like that, lol. Not really ashamed of how I look or scared about what members would say (I'm a pmf tbh), just feel like there's no real reason.

OT: fufu coming through wit the deep topics and shit

[mrblacksheep]

Judgement stems from ones standards. It's always in camparison to what they like or feel is good or worthy, bad or whatever.  I'm never one to just volunteer my opinions and feelings frequently but when asked I'll give you an honest answer. I try not to judge people because people will always like different shit and they have their reasons. With the way people are in this world espcially overreacted to petty shit, I dont blame people for hiding and being ashamed.

[Samy]

(not a reply to your post but simple post, might be off topic)

Nowadays everybody (at least from the same  age and social group) follow the same pattern and they can't accept people that don't.

end of

[Big Pete®]

Nobody should feel ashamed, aslong as your'e true to yourself, who gives a fuck?

[DP1™]

I'm ashamed to be a wrestling fan, even though it is the only thing I enjoy. Only my Mom knows I watch and only two friends at school (One watches only WWE & TNA). I don't like to talk about it in public.

[fufu ÷]

My friends know I'm into wrestling a lot, but they don't really watch and only know of WWE and TNA. Don't tell any of my friends my gamertag or anything though because I don't want people finding my YouTube channel and stuff. It's less about being ashamed (not ashamed at all) I just like keeping some things to myself. And I don't tell anyone online of my full name or show any pictures of myself because I don't know you niggas like that, lol. Not really ashamed of how I look or scared about what members would say (I'm a pmf tbh), just feel like there's no real reason.

OT: fufu coming through wit the deep topics and shit

Why do you like keeping them to yourself? What's the motivation behind that? Why share with strangers and not those you call friends?

 

Also I used to make lots of deep shit until I fell off the crazy cliff a few years ago, but I can use the old noodle every once in a while.

 

Nobody should feel ashamed, aslong as your'e true to yourself, who gives a fuck?

That's very true, but it isn't always what happens. It's a lot harder to practice than to preach.

 

I'm pretty ashamed to be a wrestling fan. People here(where I live) will rip you a new one for that. So basically the only time I mention it is while I'm on here talking to my peeps about it.

So it's the idea of being mocked that makes you hide one of your passions from others?

 

 

I'm enjoying reading these all btw. I really wanna hear peoples' thoughts, and i'll probably share my own real thoughts at some point.

[Dead-Account]

Despite I have many flaws I am who I am & I have nothing to be ashamed of I don't care what anyone says.

[huh]

fufu making me re-evaluate my life and shit, damn

[Arage™]

 

My friends know I'm into wrestling a lot, but they don't really watch and only know of WWE and TNA. Don't tell any of my friends my gamertag or anything though because I don't want people finding my YouTube channel and stuff. It's less about being ashamed (not ashamed at all) I just like keeping some things to myself. And I don't tell anyone online of my full name or show any pictures of myself because I don't know you niggas like that, lol. Not really ashamed of how I look or scared about what members would say (I'm a pmf tbh), just feel like there's no real reason.

OT: fufu coming through wit the deep topics and shit

Why do you like keeping them to yourself? What's the motivation behind that? Why share with strangers and not those you call friends?

 

Also I used to make lots of deep shit until I fell off the crazy cliff a few years ago, but I can use the old noodle every once in a while.

 

Nobody should feel ashamed, aslong as your'e true to yourself, who gives a fuck?

That's very true, but it isn't always what happens. It's a lot harder to practice than to preach.

 

I'm pretty ashamed to be a wrestling fan. People here(where I live) will rip you a new one for that. So basically the only time I mention it is while I'm on here talking to my peeps about it.

So it's the idea of being mocked that makes you hide one of your passions from others?

 

 

I'm enjoying reading these all btw. I really wanna hear peoples' thoughts, and i'll probably share my own real thoughts at some point.

 

How was my evaluation?

[fufu ÷]

How was my evaluation?

 

 

I liked that it made you question yourself. To pick up on one thing; How does what you do differ from who you are? Are we not just a manifestation of our interests, actions and physical form?

[Arage™]

 

How was my evaluation?

 

 

I liked that it made you question yourself. To pick up on one thing; How does what you do differ from who you are? Are we not just a manifestation of our interests, actions and physical form?

 

1) How does what you do differ from who you are?

A: It's kind of another weird thing to explain. However We are not just a manifestation of our actions like I said. Sometimes a person can be nice however they do another rude thing for attention or to fit in another reason why certain people hide themselves. We are more than just simple things our minds work differently. Think of a kid with Autism. You want to say something however you do something else for your attention because of your disease. Does the manifestation of your actions fit in then? Like I said before these things factors on one another, Sometimes it's just a little more.

[Moxicity]

I don't think people should be ashamed of anything they do/are/etc, coming from a sociological perspective social norms aren't universal, and unless we're desperately straining Mores and laws we're gonna find a niche, and that's all that really matters. There is no "cookie cutter" person; full stop. So there's no need to try and appease everyone.

 

Personally, I think we're the biggest judges of ourselves, and while there are things that are definitely considered taboo, people tend to worry more about what others will think, which could vary from the reaction they receive. And this is getting super long winded sooooo....

I wouldn't say that I'm ashamed of who I am and whatnot, annnnd not to sound like some kind of motivational speaker I don't think people should feel ashamed about anything either, if you don't like something fix it, if you like it fuck what everyone else thinks because at the end of the day they like something lame or weird too.

I still listen to Britney Spears, who am I to judge the next person right?

(I don't feel like a college drop-out anymore!! Thanks Fufu!)

[Dead-Account]

I am missing the back of my skull,I was insulted in school because my last name is Day,My eyes are rather strange,My ex girlfriend broke up with me because she was gay,My parents never lied to me about the Easter bunny/Santa etc,I'm a wrestling fan where it's seen as white trash entertainment,I was a fat kid & I dropped out of school(mainly because I moved somewhere far away from any schools).

 

I'm not ashamed of any of those as that's what makes me.

[Tamer™]

People treat me like shit , I'm in the worst shape of my life , I sometimes wonder what's the point in anything , doctors say I have selective autism , no one knows that I watch wrestling apart from my 2 brothers , my mum and my cousin.

Being able to say all of that , it helps.

[fufu ÷]

I don't think people should be ashamed of anything they do/are/etc, coming from a sociological perspective social norms aren't universal, and unless we're desperately straining Mores and laws we're gonna find a niche, and that's all that really matters. There is no "cookie cutter" person; full stop. So there's no need to try and appease everyone.

 

Personally, I think we're the biggest judges of ourselves, and while there are things that are definitely considered taboo, people tend to worry more about what others will think, which could vary from the reaction they receive. And this is getting super long winded sooooo....

I wouldn't say that I'm ashamed of who I am and whatnot, annnnd not to sound like some kind of motivational speaker I don't think people should feel ashamed about anything either, if you don't like something fix it, if you like it fuck what everyone else thinks because at the end of the day they like something lame or weird too.

I still listen to Britney Spears, who am I to judge the next person right?

(I don't feel like a college drop-out anymore!! Thanks Fufu!)

I like your attitude. There's also nothing wrong with Britney. She's dank in the bank.

 

I am missing the back of my skull,I was insulted in school because my last name is Day,My eyes are rather strange,My ex girlfriend broke up with me because she was gay,My parents never lied to me about the Easter bunny/Santa etc,I'm a wrestling fan where it's seen as white trash entertainment,I was a fat kid & I dropped out of school(mainly because I moved somewhere far away from any schools).

 

I'm not ashamed of any of those as that's what makes me.

Good for you. Do people in real life know about all of them too?

[BrotchMrToast]

I might be a little crazy, I still sometimes play Kingdom Hearts, I like many of the old school villain songs in Disney movies, I have no problem speaking out my mind, I have slight angre problems (I have no problem with people making fun of me, as I sometimes make fun of me aswell. But, disrespect me, and I'll probably try to rip your head off)

Everbody I know knows these things about me, and they either love me or hate me for it.

[Dead-Account]

 

I am missing the back of my skull,I was insulted in school because my last name is Day,My eyes are rather strange,My ex girlfriend broke up with me because she was gay,My parents never lied to me about the Easter bunny/Santa etc,I'm a wrestling fan where it's seen as white trash entertainment,I was a fat kid & I dropped out of school(mainly because I moved somewhere far away from any schools).

 

I'm not ashamed of any of those as that's what makes me.

Good for you. Do people in real life know about all of them too?

 

I don't hide it but I don't exactly tell random acquaintances either.

[Pac.]

Good thread, Alex.

 

I'm a total whacko, and I'm totally unashamed. I tell myself I'm a weird motherfucker all the time. I don't really have many friends. I have a girlfriend of 3 years, and I'm close with my family. I'm a 'geek', I love Comics, Anime, Sci-Fi, and Wrestling.. But at the same time, I'm a 'metalhead', and I'm a 'stoner'.. Ultimately though, I'm Jay. I'm not these labels that all seem to fit, but contradict one another. I'm content with myself, and everyone should be.

[Tamer™]

I'm not ashamed of any of the things I've listed here , I let people say what they what they want because 99.9% of the time they probably have more problems than I do and the good things and the bad things about me is what makes me who I am and I don't mind myself. Haters gonna Hate.

Edited April 23, 2014 by RatedRLionTamer™

[Guest Dazman™]

I'm not ashamed of anything about myself, I just don't like putting my details and pictures online for anybody to see, especially complete strangers that I've never and probably will never speak to. When I trust somebody enough I'll probably share my details and stuff but not on an open forum or social networking site for everybody to see and read. I've never been a fan of "selfies" anyway. I think it's just a shy thing with me because the majority of the time I prefer to keep myself to myself anyway and not attract much (if any) attention. I am who I am though and I'm not afraid to show it, if people don't like it or can't accept it then I look at it as their loss rather than mine.